Everyone is focused on becoming more intellectually intelligent.
Few are focused on becoming more emotionally intelligent.
IQ is known as “Intelligence Quotient” and it’s a measure of a person’s relative intelligence.
Emotional Quotient, also known as EQ, is the ability to identify and manage your emotions and the emotions of others.
My life completely changed when I embraced all of my feelings to the fullest and I want to help you completely change your life.
I changed my life by becoming very aware of my feelings and I want to help you become aware of your feelings because what you feel you attract!
We handle our feelings in 4 ways.
- Express our feeling (body language/ actions and behaviours)
- Escape our feelings (run away from them by going for a run, drive, watching a movie)
- Suppress our feelings (knowingly push them down by ignoring it usually in combination with escaping them.
- Repress our feelings (unknowingly push them down and are completely unaware of them)
Awareness of the feelings you are Expressing
Becoming aware of how you hold your energy through your body language and behaviours allows you to become aware of how you are expressing your feelings.
Facial Expressions
Happy = 😀
Anger = 😠
Sad =😔
People are often not even aware of their own facial expressions. Most are not aware of their body language which is another form of your body expressing its energy. You can see this in people who have become embarrassed, ashamed, fearful. You can also see this in positive feelings such as confidence, love, and joy. Our feelings are expressed through our body language.
Awareness of The Feelings You Are Escaping
A long time ago I used to listen to music and go for a run, or watch a movie like most people. When I got older I wouldn’t want to sit with my feelings so I called a friend to do something. Can you relate? People often say they have to do something to blow off some steam, or go for a drive to clear their head, or do something because they need the distraction. When I noticed the need to do something I became aware that the act of doing something was actually me running away from what I was feeling in the current movement. I was knowingly distracting myself from what I didn’t want to place my attention on the feeling that was coming up.
Awareness of The Feelings You Are Suppressing
Whatever was coming up in me felt uncomfortable and unpleasant. “I don’t like whatever this is so let me push this back down so I don’t have to deal with this right now.” It wouldn’t stay down though, it kept coming back up in a few days or the next week. I remember thinking I would push it down and distract myself with something like going to the gym, listening to music or hanging out with friends.
Awareness of The Feelings That Have Become Repressed
Feelings like shame, fear, and anger became so submerged into my unconscious mind I had no idea I was even pushing them down anymore. If you asked me at the time if I was feeling any sort of anger, fear, shame I would have said no way in hell. The irony is by unknowingly pushing them down for years they kept me living in hell. It was only until I felt the feeling fully that I was able to transcend the feeling and its emotional state. That’s when my life changed!
Steps to Transcend:
1. Become aware of the feelings you are expressing by being aware of your facial expressions, body language, and actions. Sometimes it’s hard for people to practice self awareness so if this is you try and be aware of other people’s expressions without judgement.
2. Become aware of the feelings you are escaping from. Question why you engage in activities like watching tv, overworking, online shopping, porn, sex, gossip etc. Are you using any of these to distract yourself from feeling something else that feels uncomfortable or unpleasant.Sometimes it’s hard to detect and we just say we are bored. Boredom or loneliness? Loneliness or lack of love? Lack of love or lack of acceptance? Lack of acceptance or fear to love?
3.Become aware of the feelings inside you that are arising. They start off subtle and then become unpleasant so we push them back down and the little voice in our head says I don’t like feeling that so down you go, or I will deal with that another time. I got good at procrastinating my feelings.
4.It’s extremely difficult to be aware of repressed feelings because you are unconscious to them. The only thing you can do is be open minded to the fact that most people have repressed feelings that were submerged into their unconscious mind since early childhood. Being open minded to this is all you need to do at this stage because acceptance initiates your evolution.
Until we meet again,
Brand with a Plan
Branding Wizard
Mitch Sanker🧙🏼♂️
